Paulette Kouffman Sherman: A Self Portrait
Paulette Kouffman Sherman Revealed
About Paulette Kouffman Sherman
What is your birthdate?:3/22
Previous occupations:I am a licensed psychologist, a certified life coach, I've been an adjunct professor, a marketing director, singer, nursery school teacher and now a speaker, writer, columnist and owner of 'My Dating School.'
Favorite job:My favorite job is to write because I connect with a deep part of myself and feel that I can reach the most people that way.
High school and/or college:I went to the Highschool of Performing Arts in NYC and was a vocal major there. I went to college at Washington Unviversity in St. Louis.
Name of your favorite composer or music artist?:I love James Taylor, Olivia Newton John, Carole King, Holly Near, Bette Midler and Norah Jones
Favorite movie:The Thing Called Love, Sweet November and Hideous Kinky
Favorite television show:I like The Nanny and Guiding Light.
- Q. How would you describe your life in only 8 words?
- A. I live to inspire, create, love and learn.
- Q. What is your motto or maxim?
- A. My mission is to enlighten, brighten and inspire transformative relationships
- Q. How would you describe perfect happiness?
- A. Perfect happiness is when you are in the moment experiencing love.
- Q. What’s your greatest fear?
- A. My greatest fear is that we will destroy our world (and each other) by choosing to act on fear instead of love
- Q. If you could be anywhere in the world right now, where would you choose to be?
- A. Today I feel like I'd choose Hawaii. I't sounds beautiful and relaxing and I've never been there.
- Q. With whom in history do you most identify?
- A. I have always identified with Martin Luther King because he stood for what he thought was right in the face of dissention and fear.
- Q. Which living person do you most admire?
- A. I most admire Gandhi because he was a peaceful, powerful leader who manages to transform us, even now
- Q. What are your most overused words or phrases?
- A. When I was a teenager I used to have to give my mom 10 cents everytime I said 'like' (inappropriately) in a sentence. Heh, maybe I should have paid more because I still say it sometimes.
- Q. What do you regret most?
- A. I regret the moments when I have caused loved ones pain.
- Q. If you could acquire any talent, what would it be?
- A. I'd like to learn how to play guitar so I can play James Taylor songs. I'd like to take Belly Dancing for fun and maybe go to radio broadcasting school so that I could learn more about how to host my own radio show at some point.
- Q. What is your greatest achievement?
- A. My greatest achievement is my son.
- Q. What’s your greatest flaw?
- A. My greatest flaw is that I am stubborn & it is also one of my strengths.
- Q. What’s your best quality?
- A. I try very hard to have integrity and do what feels right.
- Q. If you could be any person or thing, who or what would it be?
- A. It might be nice to be a butterfly and to fly around in the sunshine bringing gentleness and beauty to all.
- Q. What trait is most noticeable about you?
- A. My bubbly nature, especially for a psychologist. I think it surprises people.
- Q. Who is your favorite fictional hero?
- A. When I was little I loved Anne from 'Anne of Green Gables.'
- Q. Who is your favorite fictional villain?
- A. I'd have to think about that one.
- Q. What is your biggest pet peeve?
- A. I don't like it when people are irresponsible (like when they don't show up somewhere) and don't call to make things right.
- Q. What is your favorite occupation, when you’re not writing?
- A. I love being a psychologist, speaker and teacher.
- Q. What’s your fantasy profession?
- A. My fantasy profession would be to be a speaker/teacher and to use knowledge and singing to inspire others.
- Q. What 3 personal qualities are most important to you?
- A. Integrity, creativity and authenticity.
- Q. If you could eat only one thing for the rest of your days, what would it be?
- A. Pizza?
- Q. What are your 5 favorite songs?
- A. If You Wanna Sing Out (sung by Cat Stevens), Endless Love (Our wedding dance song), I Aint Afraid (sung by Holly Near), Heaven Help Us All (sung by Joan Baez), No Matter What You Do (by Olivia Newton John)
On Books and Writing
- Q. Who are your favorite authors?
- A. My favorite authors are Wayne Dyer, Neale Donald Walsch, Jean Shinoda Bolen, Robert A. Johnson, James Hillman, Debbie Ford, Barbara Sher, Eckart Tolle, Anne Morrow Lindbergh and Sarah Ban Breathnach.
- Q. What are your 5 favorite books of all time?
- A. Goddesses in Everywoman
Gift from the Sea
- Q. Is there a book you love to reread?
- A. Mine. Just kidding:)
- Q. Do you have one sentence of advice for new writers?
- A. Trust your voice and do not give up.
- Q. What comment do you hear most often from your readers?
- A. They thank me for helping them find a deeper purpose for dating
- Q. How did you come to write Dating from the Inside Out?
- A. I wrote 'Dating from the Inside Out' after going through the process of finding my own husband. When I returned from graduate school and was ready to date and settle down, popular dating advice like 'The Rules' was suggesting that singles use universal manipulative outer-focused tactics while dating. I did not want to do this and I knew there was a better way to form a healthy partnership. So, I spent time thinking about what was most important to me in a mate, how I wanted to attract him and why I even wanted to date.
Simultaneously, as a psychologist I had many clients who were struggling to meet a mate. They had long standing patterns of choosing the same type of unhealthy match again and again and were very frustrated. We were able to look at their relationship patterns and help them to move on and attract a new kind of partner, and they learned a lot about themselves in the process.
Since I had seen this work for myself, in psychotherapy, coaching and my classes, I wanted to write a book to spread this knowledge to people I might never meet otherwise. My overall mission is to help people learn and love more.
In writing 'Dating from the inside Out' I combined my personal experience, my experiences in psychotherapy and coaching, feedback from dating columns and classes to provide the most resonant information on how to attract an authentic spiritual partnership.